It hurts like mad when someone you care about just suddenly stops calling and responding to your texts. You were in a relationship with him but he didn’t have the courtesy to say something and just vanished? It’s mind-boggling I know. So by sharing some insights about why men disappear instead of breaking up, I hope your mind will give you some peace, you can stop wondering why this happened, begin to move on with your life, and discover more about what you can do to prevent it from occurring again…
- Men disappear instead of breaking up because they want to avoid the conflict and drama of breaking up.He knows that you will feel hurt by the breakup, which will most likely end in tears or a fight. And men are generally clueless about how to handle a woman who is emotionally out-of-control. He may even fear it. Hence, he would rather disappear and avoid you, rather than face the drama.
- Another reason a man will disappear instead of telling you that he wants a breakup, is because he desperately wants to avoid being asked the question ‘Why are we breaking up?’ Most men cannot specifically understand their loss of interest in woman that he used to feel very attracted to. And if he doesn’t understand it, how can he possibly explain it to you? He would have to lie… would that truly be better?
- Men will also disappear instead of breaking up because he doesn’t want to tell you the real reasons for your breakup. Very often, the reasons why a man decides to break up are not the same reasons why a woman would end a relationship. He instinctively knows that you may not understand his reason. Plus, there’s no way that he can help you understand his logic either. Maybe he knows the reason why he’s not attracted to you… but he can’t tell the truth because it’s too unkind. Do you really want to know that he thinks you’re not pretty enough, boring, etc?
- He’s made a firm decision and doesn’t want to discuss it with you. He predicts that you may try to talk him out of his decision, but he knows nothing you say will make him change his mind. So since it’s a foregone conclusion, he thinks there’s no point discussing why he won’t be seeing you anymore.
The most important thing you need to know, is that his actions have made it clear that your relationship is over to him. And even though it hurts, you can be grateful that it happened now, instead of letting things drag further.
While there are ‘logical’ reasons for why a man disappears instead of breaking up, it is not an excuse for his immature, irresponsible and hurtful behavior. Luckily, the end of this relationship means you have a chance of finding a man worthy of your love, who will treat you with respect and cherish you. But you will need to know to attract and keep such a man if you want to have the relationship you’ve always dreamed of having.